My dad has cancer, but he treats me like crap, help?
Posted on Jun 24, 2009 under cancer news and reports |He has cancer and the doctors gave him 8 to 12 months to live.
He's so mean to me, unbelievably so. He buys everything for my mom, and then when I finally get the money to buy a Blue Tongued Skink and a Leopard Gecko, and they arrive at the door, he screams and starts yelling and stuff.
I said, "You buy Mom everything and she treats you like crap, so I'm keeping these Lizards," then he said, "That depends on if the group home lets you keep them when we get rid of you," and stuff.
My mom begged me not to say anything mean, but I don't know what to do. I can't even walk past him without him giving me attitude, throwing his hands, or starting something with me.
One time I was bringing out some old garbage and he started yelling, "WHAT ARE YOU DOING?" with the dirtiest look.
What do I do? I try so hard to keep my distance from him and not talk to him, for he hates me, but he always finds some reason/way to hound me.
June 24th, 2009 at 8:42 am
I think you just have to believe fully in your heart that the problem's with him, not you. He's under stress because of cancer. He has the problems in being a good parent. You just have to try to rise above it. That's the only way to stay sane. You're a good person dealing with some tough times - happens to everyone.
June 24th, 2009 at 8:42 am
he is frustrated so just say "Dad i know youre upset but dont take it out on me"..
June 24th, 2009 at 8:42 am
I'm really sorry to hear this. I lost my mother 5 years ago from cancer….i didn't even have warning that she had cancer until it was too late. She passed away before I could even tell her good bye. Maybe just be the bigger person. Go to him and try and repair the relationship. Have some talks. Because once someone is gone, there is no bringing them back.
June 24th, 2009 at 8:42 am
hi Jamie, i just want to encourage you in this sad and hard time. i can imagine how hard it is for all of you at this time. i lost my father about five years now and he was ill for about nine months before he died and i had to care for him and it wasn't easy but sometimes i miss him and wishes he was still here especially now as father's day is just a few days away. i would encourage you just to pray to the lord and let him work it out for you. He does not give us more than we can bare. just love and respect your father no matter how bad it gets. the Lord will see you through. may God bless you and your family.
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