How would it be possible to get the real report from a hospital, which has been treating my nephew for Cancer?

Posted on Mar 31, 2008 under cancer news and reports |

Over the last 7 years, but whose true findings as to tests' results are being altered by my nephew's father.
My nephew has been in remission from Lymphatic Cancer for 5 years now,however on Thurs. when he went for a check out they found 2 abnormalities which hadn't been there before. His father, my brother whom I have begun to hate with a passion, from the very beginning of my nephew's infirmity, has lied, changed, lessened, concealed information as to the full reality to my nephew's condition. Not only that, but at the beginning of his illness, although there were signs of something very serious - he neglected taking him to the doctor. Because of this neglect, his child was way into stage 3 of the malignancy.
I have a feeling the news he's keeping, but not revealing is that the cancer is back and spreading,and he plans to do nothing about it.
By the way, for my questions to this ex-brother of mine, I GOT a Punch on the Mouth!
What to do, PLEASE!!!
My nephew is considered an adult NOW
PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS???
I DON'T KNOW HOW TO GET THE TRUE RECORDS FROM THE HOSPITAL. I AM JUST AN AUNT, NOT MY BOY'S PARENT…CAN ANYBODY UNDERSTAND THE EMERGENCY I FEEL AND HELP ME?
SOFF, YOU ARE THERE STARRING QUESTIONS, YOU'VE GOT A GOOD HEAD FOR WHAT IS FAIR, PLEASE HELP ME SAVE MY NEPHEW?????
By the way…for purposes of edification, the "petty sadist" I've just mentioned in a question after this is not the @sswhole the brother I mentioned.
Although both my brother and the petty sadist before mentioned, are, therefore different people. Except as to their STINK, they are both distinctively violating one's olfactory sense! Just a matter of clearance against confusion. Thank you.
Soff, I am grateful you have answered. What you've said is helpful, and yet hurtful as well…I love my nephew more than anyone in the world. I am the only person who has gone through great lengths to have him go on living, against all the clever neglect the rest of the family has shown him.However, and I promise you this, because although I am very strong I am not a t Titan! If Ian dies because this ostrich
Family has had their heads up their butts and the d sand as well, , I will put myself to death. And that is final. Not even 2 years have o passed by and my younger brother has died, then my favourite uncle, then my uncle in Cuba, I could not even travel there to see in time, now Ian is ill, and I am the only one who is saying : "What is wrong with all of you…open your eyes, your hearts, your minds…don't you understand what is BEFORE you? Then I feel like slapping each one of them in the face.And have them hurt as much as when the other brother, can't even say his name >>>
Punched me in the mouth for protesting his lackadaisical attitude toward my nephew. I don 't know how I can get Ian to believe in himself, save his life when his father is this colossus, standing in front of him, not allowing him to live his life, or to d save it, because he'd care for IT!
And Ian looks so tired, so wasted, as if he himself does no longer even cares whether it is life or death he'd prefer. When we talk about it he says, "Does it really matter auntie, what is the worth of Life anyway?" And I have to remind him to consider me a little, because my love for him is so great. I know I also would will my own death, or seek it out immediately, were I to lose Ian! I know I'd never be able to withstand another needless death from neglect. When my younger brother died, I did not go to the funeral…because I would not have taken to my grave the image of my beloved bother, bruised here and there, and the top of his head covered because his brains were exposed, so that upon>>>
her return from California to her home, she told me: I did not want to do it, but I HAD TO, I felt through the handkerchief covering his upper head only to fell these fat wet worms, just there which had spilled from his skull. And that has been all I have thought since then, so that everyday, I cry, but it is soundless, as if the cry can't find itself outing a wide open mouth. And this is my life! I myself am losing the wish, the will to live, because I can't withstand anymore suffering, no more, soff, REALLY, no more. I am spent and exhausted.
And I have always tried to be of help to anyone. Not because I wanted a reward, but because if help was needed, if someone was suffering I saw it as my responsibility to dive right in and become the shoulder offering support, no matter how difficult or much, its' demand. And now, I'm not heard. And this young man is my dearest love. I thought in a way, he'd be there as a reward I'd dare not ask for but given as a grace, because I'd been good.
Whosoever has been giving thumbs-downs to any of the answers below is WRONG to do so! Everyone who has offered a suggestion here has done so in the spirit of help. If the person going around giving thumb downs is doing in for some reason you believe is valid please come out and post WHY?
I am the ONE with a serious problem here - this is my nephew who is being discussed, not the ones with a trigger finger on Thumbs-down. Therefore, Please respect these caring people, by not taking away from what they say. For if anyone should be judging what advice is wrong, I'd be doing it, not someone hidden behind anonymity. PLEASE,
AND NO ADVICE, SUGGESTION, IS WRONG HERE, so please respect the issue, these caring people, my nephew, and me. Even my hard headed brother, for exposing of himself what he never should have done but did because of internal pressure and fear. So please either participate in the open, or say NOT ONE WORD AGAINST THESE GOOD PEOPLE ALL!
THANK YOU! Grecia.

5 Responses to “How would it be possible to get the real report from a hospital, which has been treating my nephew for Cancer?”

  1. barthebear Says:

    If your nephew is an adult, he should have access to his records and be able to know what is going on. Unfortunately, at least in California where the Health Information Privacy Act is in effect, a Dr cannot talk about a patient to one of his family without the permission of the patient. You should press charges about the punch in the mouth

  2. Denisedds Says:

    This so-called man punched his own sister in the mouth?! What an a**hole!

    If your nephew is 18 or over he can get the records himself or ask his oncologist to speak to you. Other than that it is illegal for the hospital to release records to anyone other than the patient, his guardian, power of attorney or any other person that they have written permission to release the records to. I know you don’t want to hear this, but you do not have a “legal” right to know no matter how much you love him.

  3. 大長今 Says:

    That is horrible. You should cut off ties with your brother. Since your nephew is of legal age, he may now get the results of any medical report without the prior consent of his parents. He may also chose to withhold or reveal those records to whom ever he wants. At his stage I suggest seeking advance medical treatment.

  4. soff Says:

    My dear friend

    Firstly, the only person that is authorized to disclose information regarding a patience's illness is the head doctor who is in charge of their care, this information is normally only disclosed to immediate family i.e. the father or any children they may have, the dark reality of cancer is that if it has got to a certain stage where the growth has developed either close to or on a vital organ the head doctor will most probably not recommend radiotherapy or chemotherapy…

    The main reason for this is that the person is already in a weakened state and the action of destroying healthy cells together with the cancerous ones can be a very tiring and sometimes a fatal action.

    Doctors although they do their best will sometimes consider letting the patient out of the hospital as an out-patient on pain management medication for them to spend there final days with some normality and with close ones.

    Cancer can be very sudden and you should not be so quick to judge anothers actions when it strikes, I have experienced this first hand and you will be surprised at the how normal symptoms like an overweight person having back pain can actually be something much more sinister.

    Now this may all be irrelevant as you do not actually know what the doctors have said, and there is also a Patient Doctor confidentiality that could come into place, meaning if he said he does not want the doctor to tell anyone about a condition then it will not be discussed with any visitors as the doctor can lose his position, if the father is still officially his designated guardian then this responsibility will rest with him.

    A doctor could probably interpret the patient's condition by looking at their chart normally located at the end of the patients bed but I think it probably it only lists the medication they are on and not any details regarding their actually illness meaning for people not familiar with medical terms it will have no meaning.

    Please try to be kind hearted at this time to all members of the family though as your nephew needs to see everyone getting along around him and not members of his family bickering, people can have very strange reactions to the possibility of losing a loved one so we must be very careful what we say and do, the best thing to do is be as helpful as possible and offer your support.

    Cancer is fundamentally a mutation of the body's cells, but that does not give anyone the right to lie and get physical with another member of the family, all we can try to do is understand their actions. I'm with you and so is He, so have faith, lots of it and pray for a miracle. Just pray.

  5. daeve930 Says:

    Bud6, there's really nothing you can do. From the hospital's point of view, it's none of your business. Your nephew is now an adult, and can if he is capable and if he chooses, control the information of his condition. Your good intentions and heartfelt desire to help him notwithstanding, the hospital cannot disclose any information to you without exposing itself to serious legal repercussions.

    I'll pray for your nephew, and for you to find the strength to deal with all aspects of this situation.

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